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Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Christmas 2013


We had a very nice, quiet Christmas this year (er, last year?) at the Izatt home; none of us left the house once and I'm pretty sure I took two naps. FABULOUS.
Here was the scene Christmas morning just before Clyde and Will were set loose.

Props to Grandma Pam for waking up early with them and then keeping them in their room until 7am!
As always, it was so fun to watch their excitement (Will's was a bit muted at first; he was still tiiiired) as they found their presents - and each other's! The boys have a lego table in their room, so most of the legos end up as communal property :).

They got as far as stockings before they adjourned to the kitchen table to start building with their new legos - a Harry Potter quidditch set for Clyde and a Spiderman set for Will.

Somewhere in there, Jack woke up! And promptly climbed back into bed, aka his brand new TODDLER bed!
Clyde and Will paused their activities to come help Jack open his stocking :).

This might be where things get fuzzy; I for sure slipped away for my first nap sometime around here, but after I woke up I was treated to this view:
 Clyde's sweeeet quidditch field! 

Oh, and Jack got to open his gift from Grandma Pam, an orange and blue fleece blanket for his new bed!
 
In an effort to divert Jack from the older boys' legos and lego table, he received one of his own, hooray! Isn't that little Duplo table so cute? I'd been looking for one for a while and like two weeks before Christmas Will and I happened upon this one at D.I. and I was sooo happy. Jack also got fun Duplo sets from Grandma and Grandpa Izatt that were quickly opened and loved as well :).

Next it was time for some more literary gifts, starting with Grandma Pam opening her presents, including a photo book of the boys' adventures from 2013 (my dad and Chuck's parents received similar books):
And Grandma Pam returned the favor by gifting the boys with awesome books: Clyde got his own set of the Chronicles of Narnia series, and Will got a set of the Littles series, which he loves. And all three boys got 'seek and find' superhero books, woo!

Uncle Cody arrived in the afternoon just in time to see the boys open their gifts to each other... gifts that had been referenced and hinted about (always accompanied with "BUT I can't tell you what it is!!") for weeks leading up to Christmas.
Soon afterwards, the boys opened an unassuming brown box that turned out to be the new Lego Marvel video game, which they had reeeallly wanted but didn't actually expect (we usually just library it up for our video game needs). I love their mirror image "OHHH!" faces, hahaha.

Chuck's grandma sent us a super cool version of the classic game Parcheesi, which Chuck, the boys, and Grandma Pam broke in... while I took another nap :).

And that -- along with lots more wonderful presents and time together and good food and phone calls/facetime with extended family -- was our Christmas! Yay!

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

December incidentals


Before I force my short attention span to focus long enough to click through dozens and dozens of pictures of legos being unwrapped (aka the Christmas pictures), here's everything else random from the month of December that hasn't already been preserved for posterity:
Ahhh, little bundled boys are so cute! Although I am for sure counting down the days until t-shirts, shorts, and crocs (do you know how much time that will save us in the morning? They might even be on time to school then!).

December was, as usual, a crazy, wonderful month. I'm cheesy and I love the happy, giving spirit that is in the air - I always walk into Walmart expecting to make friends with fellow shoppers, and in December it seems like everyone goes along with it more, haha. This year brought a big project to tackle: our church Christmas party! Our committee was asked to do food and decorations... yikes. I'm pretty sure Emily and I put blood, sweat, and tears into all the planning and executing:
We had sign-ups for people to make 'festive' potatoes and brownies, but we were in charge of buying and distributing all the ingredients to those fine volunteers. OH my goodness, that was intense. I want to say Em and I went to five stores that day... and then spent a decent amount of time divying up the ingredients and dropping them off. I'm so glad that Emily and I love each other so much, because we definitely got lots of bonding time in! [Also, her kids were superstars! I happily left mine home with Chuck that day]

The set-up and decorating happened the morning of the party, and actually went really smoothly. Then we met up a bit before the party to start getting food ready to serve.
I was in the kitchen the whole night (serious thanks to my mom for coming to wrangle the boys and Chuck for getting off work early so he could come and help me out - he was one of the meat servers) but here are a couple pictures I took of the crowd. Attendance was great, and the program was fabulous - various musical presentations and a fun video of ward members answering questions about Christmas. My favorite part was in response to "What would you give Jesus for Christmas?" - Will answered (in kind of a slow, patient tone) "Uhh, nothing. He doesn't live on this earth..." Haha, that's my literal kid!! (Clyde answered that question with "Uhh, clothes" - that's the kid of a Savers shopper!!)

We donned some pretty sweet holidays ensembles for the party (I wish I had gotten a picture of Chuck in his 'festive' holiday striped sweater...) and Jack let us know exactly what he thought of Santa Claus :).
The party was definitely worth it; I think everyone had fun and we bonded as a ward... particularly those of us in the kitchen who laughed and cried as we boxed up leftovers and marveled at the wide variety of brownies that came in :).

My other slightly time-consuming project of the month was making Jack a special pillowcase with his name on it to go with the toddler bed that Santa (that savvy craigslist shopper!) was hefting down our (non-existent) chimney for him.
As with anything crafty I embark on, it took loads longer and came out loads wonkier than expected, but that's okay! I'm slightly addicted to fabric (most of my stash has been stolen from my mom as we pared her stash down...) and so it's fun to use some of it, thereby justifying its existence in an almost overflowing tote in the playroom closet!

I made sure to sneak out for some fun in December, including a high school orchestra concert featuring my good buddy Will:
He's the cute boy (partially blocked by his music stand) playing the violin in the middle of the picture. Will is a superstar musician - his piano playing is incredible - and I loved hanging out with his mom Joy while we enjoyed the concert together!

We also had our monthly girls' night, wooo!
 Have I mentioned these nights restore my sanity? Because they do :).

 And finally, the boys had a fun last day of school before the holiday break and I got to hang out for most of it.
Clyde's class kicked off the day with a breakfast/Rudolph party. I grabbed a chair and sat in the back with Clyde to watch the movie and some of his cute little friends.

Next up was their school sing-a-long in the gym (Chuck and Jack joined me for this part). It was cute, although not terribly exciting since the parents sit behind the kids and get to admire the backs of their little heads :). But it was nice to hear the complete songs that we'd been treated to snippets of at home, haha.
 Grandpa Pam rolled in right then, just in time for lunch and to come to Will's classroom party! Oh, and the picture on the bottom right is the boys with Ms. Emily, one of the awesome ladies in the front office who calls me whenever Clyde needs me at school (some weeks I talk to her more than to Chuck...) and who also smiles at us every. single. day. when the boys walk in late to school and doesn't judge us. Love her and Ms. Elsie - they both got Christmas presents from the Izatt boys!!

Will's party was decorating little gingerbread boys and girls and watching the Grinch. Please note that Will's cookie has a chocolate chip belly button :).
 I love how tightly Will is clutching his card for Mrs. Keene - and how when she opened it, he explained that the gift card inside meant she could "buy anything she wanted at Target!" 

And that was the rest of December... minus Christmas, of course. Stay tuned for that riveting account of a day opening legos, playing legos, me napping, more legos, eating, legos, napping, etc. It was fabulous.

Monday, February 3, 2014

Our wintery weekend with Grandma and Grandpa Izatt


[Ack, it's February! How did that happen?? Turns out I might be a wee bit behind on the ol' blog, so expect a rash of catch-up posts...]

We weren't able to do any traveling in December, so lucky for us Grandma and Grandpa Izatt made a trip our direction! They came up the weekend before Christmas and all sorts of fun was had.
They drove up late Friday night during a big snowstorm that made for a slightly stressful drive (so glad they arrived safe and sound!!) but a fun activity the next day: SLEDDING!
There's a nice little hill at the park near our house that Chuck and the older boys go to regularly; Jack and I hesitantly joined in this time too.

Pops settled in at the bottom of the hill and captured all the action for us. 

Here's Clyde, who believes that if you make it all the way down still on your sled, you're doing it wrong... to the extent that he usually catapults himself off before he hits that point, hahaha:
Will prefers to stay on his sled, but his giggles definitely vouch for the fact that he has just as much fun his way... and stays at least a little drier.
Chuck took Jack down a few times and then got a running start for a solo ride:
And at one point Chuck's and my parenting instincts simultaneously failed and we agreed to send Jack down with Clyde... again, who has never made it to the bottom still upright on his sled:
Whoops! Off flies Jackers!

So I stole the 'running start' move from Chuck and slid myself down ASAP to rescue my cold little baby:
Who wasn't much worse for the wear - honestly, he probably liked it pretty well :).

Sunday after church the boys got some craft time in with Grandma - decorating paper gingerbread men with puffy paints, and making new ornaments for the Christmas tree.

They also started in on gingerbread houses!
 Alas, they needed a bit of extra time to sturdy up, so decorating had to wait until the next night after Grandma and Grandpa were gone:
(I love Clyde sporting his green and pink eyepatch...)

And of course Pops and Grandma left us with piles of thoughtful and fun presents to open for Christmas.
 Thanks so much for coming to see us! The boys had a great time, we love you lots!!

Friday, January 24, 2014

Jack is TWO!

[and has been for three weeks now, haha]

Well, after acting two for a few months, Jack officially hit the milestone at the beginning of the month and we couldn't be more delighted to have this bundle of craziness in our family.

The poor kid's actual birthday was pretty lame - he had his very first dentist appointment! It was the only day available over the break for the boys' check-ups so we threw Jack into the mix. To say he was not thrilled would be somewhat of an understatement.
 But hey, he got to wear a 'birthday boy' t-shirt and eat Little Caesars for dinner, so it all works.

 Oh, and that night he spent like an hour watching and re-watching a darling 'happy birthday' video his cousin Bailey sent him:
 Seriously. Just over and over, haha. It was pretty dang cute!!

 We finally got around to really celebrating that Sunday evening. I was really really sure that I had frosting in the pantry, only to be unable to find it... thus prompting a quick batch of homemade frosting - my first (and possibly last!) ever.
 Luckily Jack was thrilled with his little Elmo cake and presents (Duplos! more Duplos! Please stay away from the Legos!!) and Chuck lit and relit the candle a bajillion times to Jack's pure joy.

Jack is the funniest little guy ever; he continues to hilariously mimic grown-up tasks, here he is paying attention to his own personal foot hygiene as well as mine:
 PS Don't you love how there's clearly laundry waiting to be folded and yet I'm lounging with my feet up on the couch? It's cool, I'm pregnant.

Jackers definitely keeps us on our toes; his bullying has very happily decreased a decent amount over the last few weeks and he's getting loads better at saying sorry. He's sleeping in his little toddler bed pretty well, although he still likes mid-day rests in the hallway:
 Ah, cute boy :). He's chatting a bit more, although his language skills are for sure a bit behind, following after his older brothers on that front! His favorite things are Daddy, playing Duplos and legos, watching 'shows' (funny, he can say that word reeeal clear), oatmeal (often at 5am), books!, the alphabet, trains, cars, being sans clothes, Elmo, his brothers, lifting up my shirt to check on the baby, shoes (not so much socks...), nursery, and songs. He and Chuck do an enthusiastic rendition of 'Wheels on the Bus' that pretty much makes me laugh out loud every time.

Jack is funny and feisty and we're sure glad he's ours!! Happy birthday Jackers!

How to avoid the January BLAHS


I think it's pretty universally agreed that January is the worst. It's cool, I can say that since it's my birthday month. Let's face it: the high of Christmas is over, everyone's cooped up inside trying to stay warm and avoid everyone else's germs, it's grey and dreary outside and everyone and their mom is trying to peer pressure you into revamping your whole life with new goals and outlooks and workout plans. It's no wonder I usually hide under the covers with Oreos and watch loads too much TV during the month.

NOT this year though. This year my mom thoughtfully planned ahead and came up with a project to keep us all busy:
Packing up a five-bedroom house! But first, going through everything! Oh, and renovating various rooms at the same time! Let's not forget re-carpeting! On a really tight schedule! AHHHH!

Here's the quick backstory: my amazing mom made a very momentous decision over Thanksgiving break to sell the house she's lived in for the past 25 years. It's too big and too much work and she isn't there enough to enjoy it and put the time in that it would require to really be the 'home sweet home' she would want it to be right now.

Of course, at that point it was all pretty distant in the future, aka 'sometime in the spring'. Then in early/mid December a new plot was hatched, I think mostly to give me ulcers and grey hairs but also for mutual benefit of my mom and Sam/his family: they would rent out the house for Sam's 7 week med school rotation in Boise, providing them a swell place to stay and my mom some money for the first steps in needed renovations. Everybody wins! (Again, possibly with the exception of my stomach lining... that's where you get ulcers, right??)

Anyhow, life since then has been a bit of a blur. For those weeks I would close my eyes at night and see these images:
SO much stuff! I will concede that my mom is not a hoarder (I've been inside an actual hoarding house; I've got stories...) but she is fo sho a 'collector' and has the books, marbles, dolls, teddy bears, BOOKS, heart-shaped items, toys, dishes!!, and so on to prove it. She's had a lot of time over the years to pick up cute little things here and there and until now, she's had plenty of space to store them. Enter Jana, armed with a trash bag, a D.I. box, and a storage tote and sternly overseeing as EACH AND EVERY item in that house was placed into one of the three containers. 

Things that came out of my mouth every two minutes: 
"Do you love this or just like it??" 
"Mom, I'll buy you a new one."
"Someone at D.I. will love this!!"
 "We're not just clearing physical space, we're clearing mental space!" 
"Nooo, I didn't mean to throw that away. Whoops! Don't know how it got in there..."

And as the deadline got closer and my mom had to head back to work, I got some free time in the house, leading to picture messages like this one:
"Mom, pick TWO of these wicker baskets to keep, go!"
(Harsh, right? If only you knew the astounding number of wicker baskets we started with. At one point we played a game in the computer room where I told my mom to close her eyes and guess how many were in just that room... it was 17, hahahahaha.)

I'd also like to thank the City of Boise for having extra trash pick-ups during Christmas break:
And lest you think we hate the earth, understand that about twelve times this amount of stuff went to thrift stores. Maybe more.

I didn't do a swell job at before and after pictures (lots of during...), but here are some glimpses into it all:
the living room! It was crazy to see it slowly go from a nice old lady living room with plants and wooden-accented chairs and couch to a big empty space. Crazy.

the dining room:
aka the storage room (in addition to the garage, of course) while the new carpet was going in everywhere. My mom made so many really hard decisions about which dishes and furniture to keep from the dining room; I was very proud of her!

the kitchen:
('before' picture courtesy of Christmas 2012)
new stove, new countertops, new backsplash, new sink, wooo!

the main bathroom:
SO much work went into this room!! Bless Brother Arnold's heart, he thinks of bathroom remodeling as a bit of a hobby and offered his expertise and labor free of charge. I happily signed Chuck up to be his apprentice, and they went at it: new bathtub (and walls around it), new flooring, restained cabinets, new sink, new lights, new countertops. Amazing.

Apologies for this picture, but it's the only 'before' one I could find at this late hour:

If you can drag your eyes away from Quinn mid-shave, you can see the awesome vintage yellow and orange walls and the super cool frosted shower/bath door. 

Funny story: I was just telling Chuck about the days when Quinn was little and HATED baths to the point that my mom and I would have to strip him down to his underwear and throw him in the full bathtub and then hold the doors shut, hahahaha. Probably a good thing we didn't upgrade to a fancy 'shower curtain' any sooner :).
 
And my personal favorite: the back room/playroom/my old room:
 Ahhh, this room was intense. My mom is a superb grandma and this play room was the envy of many a small child. It also housed her scrapbooking materials, movie and game collections, etc. It was also the room that got some attention at the beginning of the project and was then left to its own devices and thus became my exclusive project right before the carpets need to be torn out. I think packing up this room in less than two hours will go down as one of the great accomplishments of my life...

Blessedly, we're at a stopping point for now, Sam and co. are all moved in and now the rest of the projects will wait until March - painting, redoing the kitchen/dining room floor, more packing, etc. It's been a LOT of work and time away from the boys (they were barred from the house once most of the construction began) and Chuck (we'd often switch shifts, I'd work over there for a few hours and then come home and send him over to do bathroom work with Bro. Arnold), but it's also been an incredibly rewarding experience. I've found all sorts of fun treasures from my childhood, some that I looked at nostalgically before putting them in the D.I. box and some that came home with me, much to Chuck's chagrin :). I've sharpened my craigslist skills as we sold bookcases and canning supplies and toys and a hutch and chairs and other random items. I've gotten to see old friends in that part of town as I've shamelessly asked them to watch my kids, haha (thanks again Emily and Janna!!)
And mostly, I've grown even closer to my mama. There's no way to do something like this without lots of bonding - although we managed to fit in some yelling and tears too, haha. I've been so impressed as I've watched her pack up her entire life and make difficult decisions about what to keep and what not to (obviously, I did not consider the wicker baskets a difficult decision at all, but she did, bless her heart). I've learned more about her as she's shared stories about different things we've found. I've spent time in my own house thinking about what I want to keep and share with my sons and daughter(!) some day. And I'm grateful it's prompted my mom to write again. She's shared a bit about all of this on her blog and she's a much better writer than I even fancy myself to be, which is saying something... about her talent, not just about my ego :).

So anyhow, January's almost over and I haven't even really had time to shake my fist at the fog and inversion or get addicted to a new TV show or eat loads of cookies - just kidding, I make time for that. But if anyone's looking for a cure next January, just find some nice older lady who collects EVERYTHING and start D.I.-ing packing!!

Friday, January 10, 2014

Da Boys


[I was going to get real corny and title this post 'Da Boys in Dacember' but I just couldn't do it. Sighhh]
I have a lot to blog about December, buuuut that sounds like a lot of work and last night's episode of Elementary isn't going to watch itself (I'll be stuffing New Year's cards as I watch. Oprah calls it multi-tasking) so until all of that gets covered in-depth, here's a quick look at what each of my cute boys was up to at some point in December:

1. Jack looking like the chatty neighbor kid on Home Alone:
 Please tell me you see it. I don't know why, but as soon as we put that hat and coat on Jack, all I could think about was that kid. In my mind, they were twins (that were, you know, different ages). I was pretty bummed out when I actually googled a picture and found the similarities were less striking than I initially would have bet my life on, but I still think there's a resemblance... anyone? 


2. Will and me singing one of our favorite songs, 'Ho Hey' by the Lumineers. (that link takes you to an older, live recording of the song that's my personal favorite. Apologies for the incidental language and subject matter in the background chatter...). 

Will LOVES music and when this song came out and I listened to it a lot, he quickly proclaimed it his favorite. I frequently sing the boys a medley of songs (I love you in the morning/You are my sunshine/I love my boys - a Jana Izatt original) and we usually stick the Ho Hey chorus on the end. Anyhow, this day we were listening to it and decided to make a video. First up is our attempt with some lead-up that shows a pretty accurate glimpse of our day to day interactions (Clyde is reading, Jack is not very clothed and also hitting people, etc):

 and then here's a quick one of just the song (I think Clyde provides background vocals): 
Ahhh, I love this age that Will's at - I keep telling him we're going to skip March 26th this year so he has to stay 5, but he kindly tells me that he has to grow up, but he'll come and visit. [cue tears - damn pregnancy hormones!!]

 3. And finally, Clyde had a fun encounter with my ring finger just before Christmas that left me slightly terrified that I had (half!) blinded my oldest child.
 Luckily what I lack in good parenting, I make up for in awesome eye patch/bandana creation skills!!

Here's the story: Clyde kept bugging me on Monday afternoon about when we were going to decorate gingerbread houses, even though he had been told about twelve thousand times that we were waiting for Chuck to get home from work that evening. So of course he asked again and I responded with something like "Hey buddy, what did I say would happen if you kept asking?" and to make my point more clearly, I moved my hand to [LIGHTLY! I promise! I don't even spank!] flick him on the forehead... unfortunately, at the same time, he moved towards me and so my extended ring finger jabbed him right in the eye.

The next few minutes are a blur of wailing (Clyde) and tears (probably both of us) and immense guilt (me, duh). We finally calmed down and the combination of the warm damp washcloth and the pink headband along with lego videos on the computer helped us get through the rest of the evening. 

Unfortunately, the next morning he woke up in a lot of pain again and the internet seemed to think he might have a scratch on his eye. DANG. So I called the doctor and made an appt to take him in (keep in mind it's December 24th at this point. HO HO HO).
 I stuck him in the bath, and he actually seemed much better afterwards - the sensitivity to light was mostly gone, but it was still pretty red and swollen. 

Grandma Pam met us at the doctor's office to wrangle the two little ones and Clyde was given absolutely stellar care. I was bummed that our regular pediatrician wasn't in the office, but the one there was excellent. They took us into a dark procedure room and put special drops in Clyde's eye and then busted out a black light to look for an abrasion. Happily, there were none to be found. Dr. Booth said that Clyde's reflexes probably kicked in quickly enough that I just jabbed his closed eye, hence the bruising and swelling. (PARENT OF THE YEAR, I tell ya.)

They fixed him up with a slightly more professional looking get-up (I think the elf ear look was particularly appropriate) and sent us on our way. Clyde sported that for another hour or so and then took it off and hasn't looked back (hahahaha, horrible parent but excellent pun skills!!).

[Hmm, I feel like I should have re-ordered this so we ended on me singing with one of my sons, not me causing bodily harm to one of them... but that sounds like a lot of work to go back and change, so we'll roll with it! Have a great day everyone!]

Wednesday, January 1, 2014

It's ... a ...

GIRL. ohhhh snap!
Monday morning we said good-bye to Chuck's parents (they had been up for a weekend visit, more on that fun later!) and dropped the boys off at my mom's and then headed over to the ultrasound. We were pretty mellow - Chuck had a pretty dreadful head cold and I was in the grips of a sleep-deprived/pregnant/hormonal anxiety attack, haha. This is my one and only ultrasound during my pregnancy, so even though I'd heard a solid heartbeat at all of my regular appointments, I hadn't actually seen a healthy fetus yet, and that will mess with the mind of any mom-to-be (is everything okay? is the baby developing correctly? is the size on track? did my existing children do some sort of voodoo so their wish for twin babies will be realized?)... so I was a little on edge. 

Plus I had followed the directions to drink loads of water that morning, and I think all emotions are exacerbated when you have to pee that badly :).
But the ultrasound went so well! Our technician Amy was a superstar - and I realized part of why I liked her so much was that I remembered her from Jack's ultrasound! I doubled-checked the ol' blog to make sure, and then she checked their records and found out that she had done our ultrasound with Will too! She was the perfect mixture of fun and friendly and professional and I loved her.

We got the clear gender view of our wee little girl pretty quick in the ultrasound. I was glad to get that figured out early on so we could be mentally adjusting to this huge change in our lives, all while getting to watch her squirm around. She was crazily all over the place, so that bodes well for her ability to keep up with three older brothers!! Amy kept grabbing whatever measurements she could at the moment since there was no guarantee the baby would return to that position again. She managed to get everything she needed and our wee girlie looks perfect.

Chuck and I left the ultrasound in a bit of a fog - him because of the DayQuil and inability to breathe, and me because I was pretty much terrified. I haven't made a secret out of the fact that I'm much more comfortable with boys than I am with girls. We had some time before Chuck had to head to work, so obviously my first stop was Savers for some quick retail therapy, and it worked!
I needed some reassurance that I would be able to appropriately dress a wee girl, so I picked up a couple cute things - the yellow and white shirt and the green skirt (I promise it's cuter than this 'pulled out of the dryer mid-cycle' picture suggests...) and a couple little onesies. The sparkly silver shoes were a clearance purchase from a couple of months ago that I couldn't resist - hello SPARKLY soles! I maintain that I'm not super girly, but sparkles get me every time.

In another move to psych myself up a bit, I came home and pulled out the scrapbook that my dear mom made me and checked out some of my baby pictures.
This worked too pretty well too, I don't look that scary (I probably hadn't perfected my 'LOOK' of pure evil/disdain/terror yet...) so probably our daughter won't be that scary either, at least not at the beginning! Right?

And how excited is everyone for a slew of pictures like this, except add one more older brother??
 I'll tell you what, my mom gave me a couple boxes of my old clothes and while some of them proved too ruffly/lacy/pink to adorn my child, that dress on the right WILL be her favorite when she's old enough. I loved that dress. If I could wear it now as some sort of awkward tunic-y, puffed sleeve shirt, I would.

It's been so fun to receive congratulations and well wishes from family and friends as we've shared this news. Ultimately, Chuck and I would have been equally as delighted to discover we were having another son - and probably just as scared (four boys? sounds pretty daunting to me...). Welcoming another child into a family is thrilling and fun and wonderful and also stressful and worrisome and humbling. There's no 'one size fits all' parenting approach, so another child requires that customization, regardless of gender (and that also provides loads of opportunities to second guess your parenting! Fun!) Another child means your heart stretches and grows and your love multiplies to include that child - but that also means more heartache because it turns out you can't protect that child from sadness or pain or consequences. Another child means stretched resources - time, money, attention, space, energy. 

Basically it's a wonder any of us have a second child at all, let alone a third, fourth, etc :).

My point is that we are so grateful to be able to welcome another sweet baby into our home. I know that Heavenly Father will help our family with the adjustment and help me be the mom to this little girl that I need to be - and if her hair rarely looks combed and she wears mostly greens and blues (Chuck and I put an alarming number of Jack's outgrown onesies and clothes into a drawer for this baby, assuring ourselves they were 'gender neutral' and that with a bow, she'd be fine...) and I have to call in someone else to teach her how to put on make-up when she's a teenager, so be it. She'll be loved lots and lots and lots and we'll figure out everything else as it comes :).

[OH, and she does have a name... but in the interest of not having our slightly (very?) non-traditional choice mocked mercilessly for the next four and a half months, we're keeping it pretty close to the vest right now. We'll announce it when she's born, and then if you people feel good about poking fun at a tiny baby who can't defend herself or her parents' choice in names, then that's your deal, haha.]